My blog has been quiet for a while as I have been busy with my counselling studies. I’m really pleased that the end is in sight and I will soon have more time to dedicate to Start Again Coaching. 

Part of my counselling studies is having counselling myself. Recently I told a colleague about this. He was curious and said ‘I thought it was only people with problems who need counselling’. We had a good chat about this and it’s stayed with me for a few weeks. 

Every human life is full of experiences, good and bad, different relationships, good times and tough periods, highs and lows. Having problems is part of being alive, even if those problems can vary wildly for each individual.

Mr Einstein said it perfectly;

"When you sit with a nice girl for two hours you think it's only a minute, but when you sit on a hot stove for a minute you think it's two hours".

Same principle applies to people’s problems, or perceptions of problems. Share a problem with a friend and they might frown and say ‘why don’t you just…’ - it might feel really simple to them but for you it’s more tricky. You have a different frame of reference, different experience and different feelings. 

When people offer advice it’s usually well-intended. When advice is not followed it can impact the relationship or even cause conflict. The truth is that no one can know exactly how you feel. Others haven’t walked on your shoes your entire life and don’t share the same DNA.

Professional support offers a non-judgmental and fully supportive environment for clients to talk about what is on their mind and help people move forward.

Counselling offers a space to talk, where there is a person who will simply listen.

Coaching will help people understand how to get out of bad habits and unravel limiting beliefs to allow clients to achieve their goals. 

We don’t bat an eyelid if we spend £50 on family tickets for the cinema, for 90 minutes of entertainment. £100 on a trip to the theatre. Or thousands of pounds on a week’s holiday. And those experiences are important, they give us memories to treasure for ourselves and our families. 

How about investing time and money in talking about our problems? To gain understanding of why we feel or behave in a certain way, to develop insight into our own personality and emerge as more confident individuals. 

It really helps to talk.